Marriage & Family Principles
Recently I’ve heard marriage described in this way: What if God designed marriage not so much for our happiness as for our holiness?
This places the husband & wife as the vessel of God’s purposes instead of the self oriented worldly focus of wanting our mates to make us happy. Love isn’t about us; it is really about God. Further, our marriage represents two divinely inspired roles: the husband stands in the place of Christ Jesus; the wife stands in the place of the Church. A marriage that is properly aliened with God’s design has a far better chance of finding true fulfillment. When we are practicing holiness to the Lord and each other the likeliness of being happy dramatically increases. Divorce at its core is the result of the hardness of hearts. Holiness is about subjecting oneself willfully to God and then each other.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.
With this kind of love being practiced in the marriage, it will succeed.
This places the husband & wife as the vessel of God’s purposes instead of the self oriented worldly focus of wanting our mates to make us happy. Love isn’t about us; it is really about God. Further, our marriage represents two divinely inspired roles: the husband stands in the place of Christ Jesus; the wife stands in the place of the Church. A marriage that is properly aliened with God’s design has a far better chance of finding true fulfillment. When we are practicing holiness to the Lord and each other the likeliness of being happy dramatically increases. Divorce at its core is the result of the hardness of hearts. Holiness is about subjecting oneself willfully to God and then each other.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.
With this kind of love being practiced in the marriage, it will succeed.
Marriage Principles (Pre-marriage counseling Outline)
I. God is Boss.
We belong to God we are under His Authority
Bossiness doesn’t belong
II. Consideration/Honor
Communication: Subject to one another
Agreement and Blessing
III. Friendship Foundations
Fellowship
Protection
“Em-betterment”
IV. Meeting Needs
Social, Emotional, Physical, Spiritual Needs
V. Boundaries
Fencing provides security, trust, well-being
VI. Romance
Keeping first things first: It’s about attention!
VII. Respect
What every man wished his wife knew
VIII. Listening
The key to Intimacy & Understanding
IX. Forgiveness
The key to longevity, Saying your sorry…
X. Marriage Killers
Pornography
Soaps, Romance Novels, and Gossip, escapism…
Finances, mismanagement.
Kids being the center, coming first…
Materialism
Careerism
Immaturity/Insecurity/Insincerity
Selfishness
Lack of Character & Integrity
Offendedness
XI. Headship/Submission
Biblical meanings and examples
XII. Love Languages
A key to understanding our mate
Motivational gifts explaining some things…
We belong to God we are under His Authority
Bossiness doesn’t belong
II. Consideration/Honor
Communication: Subject to one another
Agreement and Blessing
III. Friendship Foundations
Fellowship
Protection
“Em-betterment”
IV. Meeting Needs
Social, Emotional, Physical, Spiritual Needs
V. Boundaries
Fencing provides security, trust, well-being
VI. Romance
Keeping first things first: It’s about attention!
VII. Respect
What every man wished his wife knew
VIII. Listening
The key to Intimacy & Understanding
IX. Forgiveness
The key to longevity, Saying your sorry…
X. Marriage Killers
Pornography
Soaps, Romance Novels, and Gossip, escapism…
Finances, mismanagement.
Kids being the center, coming first…
Materialism
Careerism
Immaturity/Insecurity/Insincerity
Selfishness
Lack of Character & Integrity
Offendedness
XI. Headship/Submission
Biblical meanings and examples
XII. Love Languages
A key to understanding our mate
Motivational gifts explaining some things…
Highly Recommended - DVD Series "Marriage on the Rock"
Society requires years of preparation for almost any significant career endeavor, but demands no real preparation for one of the most crucial undertakings in life: marriage.
In an age of disposable marriages and information overload, where can couples turn for real answers that will make their relationships work? Only to God.
Marriage on the Rock clearly details God's principles that will turn disillusioned, divorce-bound marriages into satisfying dream relationships.
In an age of disposable marriages and information overload, where can couples turn for real answers that will make their relationships work? Only to God.
Marriage on the Rock clearly details God's principles that will turn disillusioned, divorce-bound marriages into satisfying dream relationships.
- Why no human being can meet your deepest needs
- The secret of a solid marriage
- The four foundation laws of marriage
- What the Bible says about the roles of husbands and wives
- How to understand and meet your spouse's needs
- The essential skills for maximum pleasure.
Booklets
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Boundaries in Relationships Conflict is Inevitable Listening – A Parents Responsibility Marriage Consideration Nothing Shall Offend Them! Parenting – Time Parenting – Disciplined Praying with Your Children Relationship Boundaries Respect Romance The God Kind of Friendship Transferring supervision for our children from us to God Bosses & Bossiness In Marriage & Family: God is Boss |
Descriptions
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Four main principles to keep your marriage safe, protect, and be secure. Proverbs is a goldmine for truth; Tools for understanding conflict; forgiveness is the oil in the machine to keep it running smooth... If a parent doesn't learn to listen to their children without judgment, condemnation, or guilt, they will go somewhere else...(Also a mates primary task!) Good listening is a gift that takes self discipline… This is the relationship wrapped up in a nut shell…Practice this and your marriage will work it brings equality to a one and only situation... This is a great message about offenses, holding grudges, judgmental attitudes that destroy relationships and is vital in marriage. Love in action; Love in commitment. We spend the most time with what is important to us. Spank or not to spank (toddlers); disciplining teenagers…you might be surprised how much the Bible speaks to this... Leaving and instilling a godly heritage! Our children will catch far more than we teach in this area of life and training. Don’t be afraid of them…in boundaries there is freedom. It's one of those mysteries...(a similar message revisited) What wives are to give to their husbands and it's not based on what they do or don't do... What husbands are to give to their wives its a commitment to stay focused on your wife always... Biblical principles to judge true friendships and the basis for a true marriage that lasts. This is the most important responsibility we have as parents. This is not something that takes place overnight, but it does begin very early and continues until they eventually leave home We all have bosses. Even if we are self employed we are under the laws of the land, paying taxes, and accountable to customers. Our sin nature doesn’t want one; we dream of a time hopefully in the not too distant future of being our own boss. The truth is that we will never be out from under a “boss.” Look at it another way, although bosses are in authority over us, (They tell us how to work, what work to do, and generally when to do it), we are subject to bosses and authority because God wants it that way. Ultimately, God is our boss and authority. |
Highly recommended is this International Ministry located in Colorado Springs, Colorado. Dr. James Dobson and Focus on the Family has been ministering for over thirty years. Countless millions of families, parents, and children have been blessed through their efforts. This ministry is fully comprehensive addressing ALL areas of marriage & family life:.
www.family.org/married
www.focusonthefamily.com
They have a daily Radio Broadcast in our area too!
www.family.org/married
www.focusonthefamily.com
They have a daily Radio Broadcast in our area too!